The relationship we have with ourselves is the foundation of other relationships in our lives. Self-image, self-respect, and self-awareness are what build our subconscious. The subconscious is what influences our interactions with the outside world. If we don't treat ourselves with respect, don't value ourselves, or have a negative self-image, this is also strongly reflected in our relationships with other people. A subconscious formed in this way literally cries out for bad relationships.
When we harbor feelings of inferiority, inadequacy, or even self-hatred, our subconscious mind will create circumstances that confirm these feelings. Our internal state often acts like a magnet, attracting situations that confirm our beliefs. So, if we believe deep down that we are unworthy of love, respect, or kindness, we are likely to attract people who will reinforce that belief—whether through criticism, disrespect, rejection, or sometimes even violence.
Similarly, the old wisdom says, “Treat others as you would like to be treated.” This is valuable advice, but we can quickly find ourselves in trouble if we do not have a healthy relationship with ourselves. If we do not respect and love ourselves, how can we expect to know how to treat others in the way we would like to be treated? In our relationships with others, we often express how we feel about ourselves. If we are harsh, self-critical, or even destructive with ourselves, this attitude towards ourselves will also carry over into our relationships with others.
All of this happens on a very subtle level, often unconsciously. We can find ourselves in a vicious cycle where we project our inner dissatisfaction onto others and, as a result, receive the same energy back. Our subconscious is a powerful force that constantly influences our behavior, thoughts, and feelings, whether we are aware of it or not. That is why it is so important to strive to develop a positive attitude towards ourselves – not for the sake of others, but primarily for our own sake.
When we learn to love, value, and respect ourselves, our energy changes. We begin to radiate a different vibration, which attracts different people and situations. People we meet sense this, even if it’s on a subconscious level, and often they begin to treat us better themselves. When we stand up for our values, we become more confident and calm, and we carry this over into all our relationships.
A healthy relationship with yourself is not something that happens overnight. It is a process that requires time, effort and conscious work. It is good to recognize our negative thinking patterns, fears and insecurities, and gradually build a loving and supportive relationship with ourselves. A healthy relationship with ourselves does not mean that we are perfect, but that we accept ourselves as we are, learn from our experiences and give ourselves permission to grow and develop.
